“What should I wear?!”
A guide to dressing for your photo session—
rooted in a feeling.
What if it’s not about how you look… but how you want to feel?
Set aside the pressure to look more professional, more thin, more femme, more masc, or like someone who has it all together. What do you want to feel instead?
Set a timer for 10 minutes. Ask yourself:
How do I want to feel the day of my shoot?
What kind of energy do I want to embody?
What does the most me version of me feel like in my body?
How do others respond to that version?
Let that energy be your compass!
A Ritual for Getting Dressed
How to figure out what the hell to wear (without spiraling).
Let’s be real: sometimes no outfit feels quite right. That’s your cue to take a break—or, if you’re short on time, just throw your hands up and choose comfort. Pick something that feels good on your body and let the rest go.
Because here’s the truth: you can’t see yourself, but you can feel what you’re wearing—and that feeling shapes how you move, how you show up, and the energy you carry into the room.
❁ STEP 1
Stand in front of your closet.
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath.
Ask:
What do I need today?
How would I like to feel in my body, my spirit, my energy?
𓆙 STEP 2
Open your eyes. Choose a garment. Put it on. Don’t look in the mirror yet.
Instead, tune into:
How it feels against your skin
How it moves with you
What memories, moods, or characters it brings up
Whether it allows you to breathe, soften, expand
Let your body speak before your eyes do.
✫･ﾟ STEP 3
Try to name the feeling.
Is it aligned with how you want to show up today?
Now, look in the mirror:
Does the image match the vibe?
Is there a gap between feeling and appearance?
That’s normal. Be kind. Try again if needed.
What NOT to Wear
made-up rules to possibly ignore
Use this ritual like a body-based meditation. It’s not about being “photo-ready”—it’s about showing up ready to feel like yourself.
ADVICE YOU MAY HAVE HEARD
Don’t wear crazy patterns!
Don’t wear white! It’s too bright!
Don’t wear black! Your head will float!
Don’t wear anything tight or baggy!
NO logos!!!
Instead:
Wear what makes your heart sing!!!
It will change how you move.
It will change how you feel.
It will change how you show up.
A giant
permission slip
(if ya need it)
Have fuuuuun
Keep the stakes low!
Dress for ease and movement—literally and metaphorically
Practice trusting your body (and your intuition)
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DRESS UP (unless you want to).